25 Life Lessons in 25 Years

25 Life Lessons in 25 Years

25 Life Lessons in 25 Years

I can’t believe I’m turning 25.


That’s a whole quarter of a century!



Please excuse my incredulity, but I’m just astounded at how fast time is going by. And as I reflect on the last 25 years, I’d like to share a few things I’ve picked up about chasing dreams, and life in general. 

Here are the 25 life lessons I’ve learned by 25, in no particular order:

1. Things will happen in due time…

This is one of the toughest realities I’ve had to accept. If you’ve read my 2015 year ender post, you might’ve known that I was disappointed that something I thought will happen last year didn’t happen.

In retrospect, I can now say that it’s a lot better that my life ended up this way instead of what I had intended for it to be.

 2. …but don’t forget to still work hard towards your dreams.

Yes, maybe that dream will or will not happen, but at least try to go after it 😀

 3. Look for and seize opportunities, or create your own!

This is a big one for me. If there’s a will, there’s a way, and if there’s no way then carve your own path!

Which brings me to my next life lesson…

4. Use whatever resources you have right now .

I like to look at life as a game, and we are given tools that we need to “complete quests”/achieve goals.

5. Take risks, and don’t be embarrassed to fail.

Failing is part of life, and it’s OK.

I’ve entered an animation festival where I had to send my entry in a CD by mail. 

Postage costs around $21, which may not seem a lot but it converts to PhP 1,000! x_x And for a fresh grad in the Philippines, that’s a LOT.

Unfortunately, nothing came off it as my entry didn’t even get in the festival, but at least I tried 🙂

6. You can always learn something from everyone.

Even the difficult ones.

7. Nobody has it all.

Money, opportunities, looks, intelligence, skills…what somebody lacks, another person will have, but what they lack, the other person will have. I’ve learned that the world is balanced in that aspect.

8. Nobody has everything figured out.

No one else knows what they’re doing or where they’re going either.

9. Count your blessings.

When the going gets tough, I’m grateful for my mom who would always remind me of all the good things in my life (Hi ma, I know you’re reading this lol)

10. Don’t ignore your passion. Don’t lose the spark.

Like they say, it’s slow suicide!

11. Listen to where your heart wants to lead you!

There was a time where I had to choose between my day job and freelance. Eventually the stress from trying to balance both led to me being hospitalized twice in a month! 

Despite the security of getting a paycheck every other week, I decided to take the plunge into the uncertainty of the freelance world while I was still young and could afford to take the risk.

Yes, it’s difficult and there’s a million things I have yet to improve on, but I was able to focus on the type of career that I love, and that’s something!

10. Don’t be paralyzed by choices. Choose to do something!

There’s this story I read some time ago about a dog stuck between two houses on top of two hills. 

The person in the first house called the dog to feed it, so the dog ran up one hill for food. But before the dog got to the first house, the person in the second house called the dog, and so the dog ran down the first hill and up the second one. As a result, the dog was stuck running up and down between these two hills, and never had any food. 

If you’re unsure where to go because there’s so many directions to choose from, just pick something and focus on that. It’s better to do something than nothing, and with growth you’ll come to understand which path is right for you and which isn’t.

11. Don’t compare other people’s journey with your own.

Each person is unique. No one else can experience life the exact same way that you do, so no one else will have the exact same journey as you.

12. Ignore what others think.

You’re not in this world to live a life in order to please others. You do you!

13. Don’t let anyone shame you for being different from them or for just being you.

It’s ok to like things that others aren’t into, just as it is ok to dislike things that other people like.

14. Ask for advice, and then do what you want to do anyway because you’ll never know unless you try.

15. Minimize stress. 

Will this matter 5, 10, 15 years from now?

Everything is temporary, and you will get through whatever it is you’re going through. 

16. Be nice.

You never know what someone is going through, so try to understand where they’re coming from. 

17. …but don’t forget to stand up for yourself when needed.

Because there are people who will take advantage of your kindness.

18. Things always change. The key is to adapt.

19. Be mindful of the type of people you surround yourself with. 

It’s better to be alone than to be around people who make you feel bad and drain your energy.

20. Be your own personal cheerleader. 

Speak to yourself like how you would to a good friend. Would you say those bad things to them? No? Then why say that to yourself?

21. Hope, but don’t count your chickens before the eggs hatch.

So that you won’t be disappointed!

22. Never forget the people who helped you.

23. The world really is GINORMOUS.

Not really a life lesson, but my recent travels have opened my eyes to how diverse humanity really is! Just imagining what a person could be doing at this exact moment in another part of the world, and what their past and their life could be like, makes my head spin!

24. Prioritize yourself.

No job or person is worth sacrificing your health for.

And finally…

25. It’s ok to take a break!!!

Or else your body will force you to rest.

Birthday Cake GIF Animation by Jeca Martinez | www.jecamartinez.com

Now Your Turn!

  • What motto or belief do you like to live by? Share them in the comments below!

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  • Nico April 5, 2016 at 7:12 pm

    Well first of all Happy Birthday 🙂 ! I think it’s an amazing idea to share your life lessons with your readers. It’s also amazing for you to think back. I especially love point 24 and 25. Although most of these are pretty much true. Regarding work the words I live by are “Be so good they can’t ignore you” by Steve Martin. It gives me strength every time.

    Have a great day 🙂

    • Jeca Martinez Author April 15, 2016 at 6:08 am

      Thanks Nico! I absolutely love that quote “Be so good they can’t ignore you”! I feel like that is so appropriate for my life right now, and I wish I remembered to add that to the list! Thanks so much for reminding me though 😀 Have a great day as well!

  • Srikanth February 22, 2017 at 4:43 pm

    Such a well-written and thoughtful post, Jeca! I think this has to be my favorite among all the posts in your blog. I like the points 3,5,11 and 22 the most. 🙂

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